I can be pretty hard on myself, set the bar so high that even when I do something well I reason it away, saying it’s not good enough. But ya know, I’ve made some good friends over past years, and not one of them treats me this way. 

Would I want a friend who can’t acknowledge the good I do, who only belittles my efforts? The answer’s pretty obvious. Then why treat myself that way? But even if I recognize I want to act differently, it’s not easy to change a habit. In fact, I don’t know if I could without the support of good friends – the same ones I mentioned: the ones who listen. 

So, after sharing my 100th post last week, I had a decision to make. Would I continue to act the way I have in the past, telling myself, “Sure, you’ve shared one-hundred posts, but you’re no Jane Austen.” The buckets of cold water come quickly. It’s easy to gloss over an accomplishment. Too easy. But when something is easy, it’s usually not the right path to take.

I think of my friends, and how hopeful I feel when they encourage me. Their support is giving me the strength to offer that same encouragement to myself. 

So here goes – I pause to acknowledge I haven’t given up on my goal. It’s been hard work, but hey, if dreams were easy to attain, they wouldn’t be that exciting, would they? I’ve chiseled through rock to get where I am, creating new habits, awakening new realities. I’ve reached a landmark. I’ve posted my 100th post!

It’s more than that, though. I couldn’t have pressed on without support. Through the process, I’ve gained new depths of friendship. It’s a natural outflow of opening up, saying, “This is what I want to do but I’m afraid I can’t.” So as much as this post is a celebration, it’s a form of gratitude. Gratitude for friends who have listened when I’ve shared my fears, and cheered me on when I’ve faced them. Friends who are teaching me to cheer myself on.

Thank-you!  

How about you? Have you found a friend you can share your dream with – one who offers support? I hope so. For me it made the difference between giving up and making it to Post 101.